# Helping Your Family Thrive ## A Practical Guide to Parenting with Positive Behavior Support SARAH A. FEFER, PHD, BCBA SHANE ISLEY, MS, BCBA MISSY SIEDERS *Content Developed By Meme Heineman Ph.D. BCBA* --- ## Webinar Tips Close any applications that use bandwidth or resources **1** on your device To submit a question, click “Questions” in the webinar **2** panel and type in your question To minimize the webinar panel, click the orange arrow **3** in the upper left of the panel If you experience audio issues, check the Audio tab of the webinar panel for correct speakers, ensure **4** speakers are turned up, or try reconnecting to the webinar. --- ## Helping Your Family Thrive - The new companion book to the bestselling parenting with PBS guidebook - A proactive, whole-family approach to prevent challenging behaviors before they occur and ensure that the whole family thrives - Parent workbook with downloadable fillable forms, practical exercises, worksheets, planning documents, and more ## bpub.fyi/HYFT --- ## Certificates Certificates of attendance are available for all webinar and recording viewers. ## More information will be provided ## at the end of the webinar. --- ## Our Agenda - What is Positive Behavior Support? - Defining Expectations - Developing the Plan - Organizing Space & Time - Teaching New Skills - Using the Plan - Questions --- ## What is Positive Behavior Support? Positive behavior support (PBS) may be best viewed as a framework and a process for understanding behavior, structuring our homes and interactions, and resolving behavior problems. PBS is a set of research-based strategies used to increase the quality of life and decrease problem behavior by teaching new skills and making changes in a person’s environment. This approach can be used in homes, schools, and community settings. ### Elements of Effective Support - Understanding Patterns - Preventing Problems - Teaching New Skills - Responding Effectively - Changing Lives - Working Together ### Goals of the Book - Focus on the family context and the family unit as a whole - Make PBS assessable to all families and professionals - Describe a process that can be tailored to the unique values, circumstances, culture, and life experiences of each family ## Introduction to the Sanchez Family ! Multigenerational family with 2 young children | Strengths | | | --- | --- | | Strong and supportive relationships | | | Enjoyable jobs with financial needs met | | | Shared priority to care for family members | | | Systems savvy | | | Support from responsive Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) providers | | | All family members share a love of learning | | | Challenges | | | --- | --- | | Not enough time in the day | | | Compromised and interrupted sleep | | | Short fuses and meltdowns | | | Need for lots of supervision | | | Challenge with sharing and snatching/grabbing toys | | | Less romance/couple time | | --- ## Family PBS Self- Assessments: ### Establishing Goals Family PBS Self- Check --- ### Example: Sanchez Family PBS Self-Check - Family Vision & Expectations – scored somewhat on all items, mainly on the same page, but expectations and rules are not always clear or understood by all. - Org. of Time & Space – scored very much on items; a family strength. Some scheduling is outside of their control. - Teaching & Basic Discipline – scored somewhat/very much; primary focus on Alex’s Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) services. A work in progress. - Supporting Family Life – scored mostly somewhat; stress management is a crucial area of need. Community participation is challenging due to preference for two adults & conflicting schedules. --- ### Defining Expectations - Goal = family alignment - Get everyone on the same page - Create an overall vision for your family - Values, beliefs, goals - Specific behavioral expectations - What family members need to say or do to achieve that vision ### Family Expectations • Expectations - Specific behaviors - Responsibilities - Rules - Timelines • When you imagine the best possible family, what comes to mind? • What does everyone in the family need to do to realize our vision of success? • What behaviors may interfere with that vision? --- ### Sanchez Family Vision Statement The Sanchez family is understanding, patient, and helpful towards all family members to remain positive when things are good and challenging. | Respect | Kindness | Empathy | Generosity | Honesty | | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | | Cooperation | Equality | Achievement | Responsibility | Openness | | Integrity | Compassion | Curiosity | Gentility | Creativity | | Productivity | Inclusion | Civic Duty | Courage | Perseverance | | Patience | Enjoyment | Togetherness | Supportiveness | Faith | | Forgiveness | Humility | Excellence | Assertiveness | Accountability | | Helpfulness | Fairness | Independence | Community | Spirituality | | Pitching In | Safety | Comfort | Positive climate | | --- ### Sanchez Family PAWs Expectations ## Practice kindness ## Act responsibly ## Work together --- ### Sanchez Family Responsibilities & Rules | Household Tasks | Family Member(s) Responsible | | --- | --- | | Grocery shopping | Roberto | | Meal planning | Catherine | | Cooking | Roberto(weekdays); Catherine(weekends) | | Doing dishes | Roberto(am); Catherine(pm) | | Cleaning up toys | Alex & Rachel | Family Rules: Before taking anyone’s belongings or entering their rooms, you must have permission. If an argument erupts, an adult will remove the item until a resolution can be reached regarding who will have it. --- ## Organizing Household Space - In what ways does your environment support or interfere with the behavior you want to achieve? - Encourage productivity - Arrange appropriate supervision - Minimize distractions/disturbances - Provide comfort and access to needed items ### Sanchez Family – Floor Plan First Floor | Dining room | | Kitchen | | --- | --- | --- | | Catherine's Office | | Living room | | Alex's Bedroom | | Hannah's Bedroom | | --- | --- | --- | | Bathroom | Stair-well | Master Bedroom | | Rachel's Bedroom | | | | | | | | | | | --- Second Floor --- ### Organizing Household Time | Time | Mon(C work) | | --- | --- | | 7 | Wake up/get dressed | | 8 | Breakfast | | 9-3 | School/daycare | | 4 | ABA(A) | | 5 | ABA(A) | | 6 | Dinner | | 7 | Bath | | 8 | Bed | ### Prioritizing Activities - Creating “things to do” lists - Estimating time required - Evaluating the importance - Have tos (meeting life demands) - Want tos (filling your bucket) - Saying “No” or “Not now.” - Delegating activities --- ### Sanchez Family Routines After dinner/bath time/bedtime was identified as the most challenging routine. - Necessary to divide and conquer (bath and dinner clear up) - Structured bath time: 10 min to wash, 10 min to play - Enlist help from Catherine’s sister - Snacks and signage for upstairs bedrooms --- ## Teaching New Skills - Skills needed to meet expectations - Methods for effective instruction - Reinforcement for desired behavior - Natural and logical consequences ### Common Skills That May Need To Be Taught • Communication • Social interaction “Does _______ know how to _______?” • Organization • Daily living • Problem-solving • Self-management First define and create specific examples, then break down further into steps or components (as needed) • Leisure skills --- ### Method to Teach New Skills Define & Explain with Examples Model / Role Play > Practice & Reminders Provide Feedback - Determine criteria for success - The goal is to reduce support and improve independence over time --- ### Sanchez Family Skill Development Self-Management Targeted for all 5 Family Members Calm down tools 1. Count to three before responding 2. Request space from family members when needed (self time-out) Perspective taking 1. Reminders to put self in their shoes 2. Use of emotion ID cards to guess how others are feelings (made into a game) 3. Prompt “May I have ____?” to ask permission to use others’ belongings --- ## Using the Plan ### Sanchez Family Using the Plan - Strengths/what’s working: more intentional with use of encouraging words and managing frustrations (including redistribution of household tasks). Less stressed too! - Changes/challenges: improve timeline of notification of changes on the shared calendar (add a text between parents to ensure strong communication); shared bathroom continuous challenge. --- ## Monitoring the Plan: Sanchez Family Weekly Rating ### PBS Self-Check (Post) | Family Vision & Expectations | Not at all | Somewhat | Very Much | | --- | --- | --- | --- | | Shared values and goals | | | X | | Clear behavioral expectations | | | X | | Rules regarding misbehavior | | | X | | Household responsibilities | | | X | | Organization of Space & Time | Not at all | Somewhat | Very Much | | Good household organization | | | X | | Shared family calendar | | | X | | Consistent daily routines | | | X | | Notice of schedule changes | | X | | | Time limits on activities | | | X | | Teaching and Basic Discipline | Not at all | Somewhat | Very Much | | Explaining and modeling | | | X | | Praise for positive behavior | | | X | | Privileges linked to behavior | | X | | | Pre-planned consequences | | X | | | Respectful discipline methods | | | X | | Supporting Family Life | Not at all | Somewhat | Very Much | | Open, clear communication | | | X | | General respect and kindness | | | X | | Effective problem resolution | | X | | | Strong, loving relationships | | | X | | Ability to manage stress | | X | | | Support of family and friends | | X | | | Full community participation | | | X | --- ## Sanchez Family: Making It Work • Combined family-centered PBS with individualized ABA treatment, with help of service providers, to enhance family quality of life • Prioritized community outings as a whole family, as well as division of household responsibilities • Importance of parent self-care & romance --- ## Thank you for your time! - Questions? • We are planning future workshops – ## contact us if you want to learn more! --- ## Certificates ### Certificates of attendance are available ### for download from the “Handouts” section of ### the webinar and from the URL below: ## bpub.fyi/HYFT-cert --- ## Webinar Survey At the end of the webinar, you will be asked to complete **a short survey.** Let us know your thoughts about this webinar and you’ll be entered to win a free book set.